Thursday, September 8, 2016

True Friendship


Over the years, I’ve been blessed with many friendships found at different junctions in life – childhood, adolescence, adulthood, at school, in my neighbourhood, through other friends…



For a long time I thought that someone I met in adulthood could never become as close as someone I’d known for years. I was wrong. For a long time I believed that because I had known someone for years, that we had an inseparable bond. I was also wrong.



Experience has showed me that true friendship is not a function of time but factors much more complex.  No kidding, eh? 

A recent conversation with a long time friend got me reflecting on what true friendship is to me.



Friendship is work. Your friends may disappoint you but working through these moments with open, honest communication is key.



Friendship is a two way street. This ties to the previous point. If one person consistently makes more effort in the relationship, it is fair to evaluate the solidity of this ‘bond’.



Friendship is support. Within the year I met a great person with whom I have a lot in common. Some of the qualities I appreciate most about her are her selflessness, help, support and genuine desire that I be happy and do well. Frankly it is infectious.



Friendship is love. Though I may not see some of my friends nearly as much as I’d like, when we connect I feel their unconditional support and acceptance. Truly a safe space to be myself without judgement.



Time is too precious for anything less.  

Monday, June 6, 2016

10 simple joys


Recently "Chewbacca Mom" reminded the world that life is about the "simple joys". Think about it - more of  life is about the everyday moments than the sexy milestones. Though I've written a lot here about gratitude, this got me reflecting yet again on the simple joys I am thankful for. This is my list right now, though in no way complete.

1. Snuggling under a cozy duvet
2. That first sip of freshly brewed coffee in the morning
3. Hugging my partner tightly
4. Smiling to strangers and getting smiles back
5. Taking in a beautiful skyline view
6. Mastering a new skill that was unknown to me
7. Being awakened by the chirping birds outside my window each morning
8. Watching a scary movie and jumping with fright (this is a guilty pleasure, I'll admit)
9. Grocery shopping with my partner (yes I know, weird but true - we are talking simple!)
10. Camping adventures (s'mores included ;))

What are your simple joys?

Wednesday, June 1, 2016

Chewbacca Mom


Unless you've been living under a rock, you've heard of the now ubiquitous "Chewbacca Mom".  There's been a lot of discussion on and offline as to why it resonates with so many people - over 5 million in fact. But it's not rocket science to understand why Chewbacca Mom has soared to stardom - she is positive, she appreciates life, she is real, she doesn't care what others think and she is fun. Who doesn't want a little more of that in their life? So, if you are one of the few who haven't seen this yet, or you want to see again (I never get tired of this :)), check it out. I guarantee you'll smile.

Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Finding what speaks to you

For some time, my partner and I have been talking about devoting time together to a local cause we believe in. Fuelled by our own sense of gratitude and desire to make a small difference, we considered a few options. And though there are so many wonderful causes to choose from, nothing seemed a perfect match.  That is until we found The Furniture Bank.

The Furniture Bank is a Canadian non-profit dedicated to providing gently used household furnishings to families in need. With my new but growing background in design, and my partner's handyman skills, this was the cause we had been searching for.  Volunteers can assist clients with furniture selection, prepare furniture for delivery, provide marketing or administrative support, and/or repair furniture. If you'd like to say hello, come by and you'll find us in the furniture workshop giving pieces a second life.

So, if you're also considering volunteering for a cause, start by asking yourself what's important to you. Poverty? Social justice? Healthcare? Education?  What skills can you offer?  How often are you available? Answering these questions will help narrow the options so that you can find the charity that speaks to you best. 

And if you're on the fence, these are some great reasons to get in the trenches:

1. Give back to the community in which you live
2. Celebrate your appreciation for your good fortune
3. Apply your knowledge and skills to furthering an important cause
4. Learn new skills
5. Make new friends!

And of course if you can't volunteer your time, monetary donations are always just as important. Com'on, think about how good you'll feel