Over the years, I’ve been blessed with many friendships found at different junctions in life – childhood, adolescence, adulthood, at school, in my neighbourhood, through other friends…
For a long time I thought that someone I met in adulthood could never become as close as someone I’d known for years. I was wrong. For a long time I believed that because I had known someone for years, that we had an inseparable bond. I was also wrong.
Experience has showed me that true friendship is not a function of time but factors much more complex. No kidding, eh?
A recent conversation with a long time friend got me reflecting on what true friendship is to me.
Friendship is work. Your friends may disappoint you but working through these moments with open, honest communication is key.
Friendship is a two way street. This ties to the previous point. If one person consistently makes more effort in the relationship, it is fair to evaluate the solidity of this ‘bond’.
Friendship is support. Within the year I met a great person with whom I have a lot in common. Some of the qualities I appreciate most about her are her selflessness, help, support and genuine desire that I be happy and do well. Frankly it is infectious.
Friendship is love. Though I may not see some of my friends nearly as much as I’d like, when we connect I feel their unconditional support and acceptance. Truly a safe space to be myself without judgement.
Time is too precious for anything less.