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Bridges not Barriers

The longer we listen to one another - with real attention - the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions. Barbara Deming
It’s easy to focus on the ways we are different from one another.  Doing so inevitably leads to building barriers and creating distance.  Though there is little to no vulnerability staying within those walls, there is nothing of value to be gained either.
Of course seeing eye-to-eye may take discussion/compromise and may (sometimes) feel threatening; with patience it leads to closer relationships, personal growth and truth.

Building bridges keeps dialogue open.  Minds open.  Hearts open.  When the instinct is to shut down, become frustrated, or focus on what separates us, consider letting go of judgement, being honest with yourself and vulnerable about your feelings.  (Sure, I know I’m one to talk…working on it!)

Anyone worthwhile will help build that bridge to meet you somewhere in the middle.  May be corny, but definitely true.

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