My friend Fiona posted a link to a brilliant article on regrets of the dying. It focuses on the observations of a palliative nurse in Australia who has tended to many people in their last days.
The nurse notes that the top five regrets of those near death are:
1. Living a life according to the expectations of others
2. Working too hard
3. Not expressing their true feelings
4. Losing touch with friends
5. Not allowing themselves to be happier
We are all guilty of one or more of these behaviours at various points throughout our life. Unfortunately those near death are too late to make a change. But we can learn a lot from them. We are all in the same boat - facing challenges, pressure, stress, expectations – but it is up to us how we navigate them.
Perhaps it’s a matter of taking baby steps. Reaching out to a long lost friend. Telling loved ones how much we care and being honest about disappointments. Savouring small moments doing something we enjoy with those we love – a coffee, a walk in the park - instead of focusing on the "big" moments.
It’s a challenge for everyone. But keeping these regrets in mind, we are in a better place to make our life different. Because, when it comes down to it, it’s all about the connections we’ve shared and the memories we've made along the way.
To read the complete article click here.