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Certain Uncertainty

“Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.” ~John Allen Paulos

Like death and taxes, uncertainty is a constant. It surrounds us in the everyday - in our career, with our loved ones, and even within our own physical being. We fall ill, marriages fail, people are laid off.  Sometimes events develop over time making the outcome (perhaps) somewhat easier to manage, or at least get used to. It’s even worse when, out of nowhere, our life changes on a dime.

Despite what it may seem, this is not meant to be a post about doom and gloom, but rather one about the importance of accepting this ever-present uncertainty and focusing on what we do have control over.
There is so much that can be said about how to deal with uncertainty; be it related to finances, employment, relationships, health. Here are some tips on how to maintain well being in various aspects of life as best as possible, in the face of the unknown.
  • Career well being: Though good work doesn't guarantee job security, you do have control over your overall long term career management process. The current economy may force you to seek a bridge job if your first (or second) choice is not possible, so consider alternative ways to achieve your goal. Once you've drafted a wish list, think carefully about how you'll set yourself apart as a candidate for those opportunities. By focusing on what you can control and avoiding anxiety and negativity, you'll be in a better position to create opportunities before others do.
  • Physical well being: The busier life becomes, often the greater the toll on our body. It's crucial especially in those times, to treat your body well to mitigate ill health. A minimum of seven to eight hours of sleep nightly, combined with even mild exercise, improves mood and maintains energy. Sticking to a healthy diet will also strengthen your immune system and contribute to an overall sense of well being. This will help you navigate the stress and will improve your chances of maintaining overall health in the long term.
  • Relationship well being:  Listen to your partner's views and try to understand them. Talk about your expectations, fears and anxieties. Instead of focusing on the negative, remember all the qualities you love about your partner. Show your appreciation through kind actions.
Finally, remember that your future depends on what happens now, not on the imagined possibilities of what might occur. Staying in the moment allows us to take each day step by step. Not only does this take our mind off uncertainty, it creates the very future itself.

I would like to hear from you. What would you add to this list? How do you manage uncertainty?

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