According to Webster’s dictionary, sharing is defined as:
- To divide and distribute in shares <shared out the land among his heirs>
- To partake of, use, experience, occupy, or enjoy with others
- To grant or give a share in — <shared the last of her water with us>
- To tell (as thoughts, feelings, or experiences) to others
We’re not formally taught to share our feelings. No one tells us that not sharing feelings can be bad.
When we grow up, the process of sharing the intangible becomes an elective one. We decide what and with whom we will share our thoughts, feelings and experiences on a case-by-case basis. In so doing, we imply trust and caring for the person with whom we're sharing. And withholding from those we care about sends a strong message – perhaps unintended – but exclusionary nonetheless.
So, why don’t we place more emphasis on teaching sharing the intangible? Some of the greatest moments of closeness derive in that uncensored and unfiltered sharing with those for whom we care. It strengthens bonds, demonstrates trust, and shows respect.
So, if there’s something on your mind you’d like to share but have been holding back, take a leap of faith. Trust. Don’t worry about the outcome. Sharing in itself is the reward.