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Answers are Closer than You Think


The best source of advice: to ask, 'What would I tell someone like me, if I didn't happen to be me'? - Alain de Botton

A friend recently confided in me about a difficult situation she's in. Conflicted as to how to proceed, she was seeking my unbiased, objective opinion. I listened attentively, and as she spoke it was very clear to me what she should do.

Whether she will take me up on my suggestions is still unknown, but at the very least she recognized that she didn’t have the clarity of mind to make a "good" decision.

Often when we're emotionally tied to a situation, the “right” thing can be muddied by that darned tug-of-war between the heart and mind. So, we seek the advice of those we care about and who know us well, trusting that they would not steer us wrong.

Some would say that advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't. That is because beneath the tug-of-war, our intuition remains the truest voice of reason. The key is to tap into it, trust it and follow it. I believe that to do so will never let you down. The next steps will (most often) put you on a better path as a result.

So next time you're faced with a tough decision, ask yourself what advice you would give someone in your situation. Often you’ll have to look no further for your “right” answer.

What do you think? How do you deal with difficult decisions?


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