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Love or in Love?


When we meet someone we really like, our instinct is to spend as much time with them as we possibly can. The magic of falling “in love” takes us over. Time stands still when you’re together, yet passes too quickly at the same time. And when you’re apart you look forward to the next time you’ll be together again.

There is little in this life more joyful than that feeling of falling head over heels and being in love -- matched only by being loved too.

When speaking about love in romantic relationships, people often make a distinction between loving someone and being in love. I recently had a discussion about this with someone who believes that there is no difference between the two. That it's just semantics.

I've always believed there to be a difference. When my opinion was challenged, it didn’t necessarily change, but put into light the many labels we assign to our emotions. Doing so probably gives us a sense of reason and understanding of the intangible.

But the terms we bandy about obscure the message.

At the end of the day, I believe (some of) the questions to ask yourself about your relationship are:
  • Does your partner inspire you to be a better person?
  • Is your life better together?
  • Do you accept that it’s not perfect but are committed to working through the tough times together? 
Perhaps it doesn’t matter then what you call your love, just as long as the commitment is there to be patient with it, grow with it, build on it…

I have said here before that I am the last person to position myself as a relationship expert. These are just my opinions of love. What do you think?

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