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Eye to eye

My friends always laugh at me when I insist that we look straight in the eye when making a toast. Anything less to me, is insincere. Meaningful eye contact can be tough these days. I feel that people, now armed with smartphones, are less inclined to connect this way in lieu of texting their friends somewhere else.

I paused recently reading an article citing the perils of walking and texting. Apparently this has become such a problem that there are even neighbourhoods in London England, that have wrapped tree trunks in padding to prevent people from hurting themselves when they most eventually will walk into a tree!

Many of my happiest days are those spent in the company of my loved ones. In real conversations. Having real experiences. I can't recall any stand out experience alone in the company of my computer. With my bike, yes.

But I digress.

The key to me is sincerity. Sincerity of emotion. Sincerity of experience. Sincerity of expression. Smartphones and computers if/when used as tools to enhance sincerity are wonderful. When used as an escape, or an obstacle to sincerity, far less wonderful.

So, how to stay sincere? Start with looking people straight in the eye. Your neighbours, your friends, your colleagues. People will appreciate your attention and your interest. Your text can probably wait and you'll run far less risk of running into a tree.


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